First of all one
should learn how to deal with negative and selfish people. For this one might
have to understand the psyche of selfish behavior. Most of the time, it arises
out of insecurity, mistrusting the way of life and false pride in people. Understanding
these traits should invoke empathy rather than anger in a wise person.
Negativity exists in
people in various kinds and intensity. Some people are either pessimistic or
obsessed with perfection by nature. Their imagination leads them to think worst
first. This is unfortunate but true as such people are mostly not able to enjoy
the beauty as much, as they get engrossed in making odd things even. In a neat
and tidy room, they are the first one to notice a piece of unpicked paper, or
some dust on the table or a slight wrinkle on a sheet. They will not be at rest unless they even out
all this. This kind of nature is bound to create stress unless they accept the
truth that nothing in this world is perfect and learn to ignore their urge to
correct everything. Some people are cunning
and shrewd; who believe in manipulating other people, using them to fulfill
their own needs and wants. They think themselves too clever and believe that
people will not understand their hidden agenda.
This kind of nature in people is cause of stress and intolerable to
normal people. One must always remember
that all these personalities are formed eventually with time, as a mixture of
their original inborn nature plus the up-bringing they received, and the
environment and events they might have been exposed to.
It might be difficult
for a simple person to keep their reactions normal in front of such people, but
a wise person would understand their psyche, their guilt traps, and their
hidden agenda of getting their way through such behavior. Therefore, the best
technique is, not to fall in the trap. Keep calm and use various ways, such as
reacting in a different way as expected and taking them off guard, which will
confuse them and may leave their motive futile. Use a firm, polite and
confident tone which again will show your stable and strong mental strength.
Show them that you are in your own control by not reacting to their provocations.
Sometime showing ignorance and pretending as you did not understand what they
are saying helps because such people are never straight forward neither are
their communication techniques. Sometimes leaving things loose and hanging,
with statements such as “I will see what can be done”… or “will see later”, can
also help you to leave from the scene. Leaving the scene and engaging yourself
into a worthwhile and fruitful activity is a better way of using your time and
being in control. Counting till ten also
helps and distracts you from other person to yourself and give you time to hold
your anger and be in control.
Let us revise and
recall few very important and fundamental principles of nature.
....to be continued......
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